5 things I do to unwind after a long day

Some events can turn a day into the longest day making you wonder just how much more you can take before you lose it. I have lost my cool on some days and my colleagues have never stopped calling me ‘apilo matindo.’

Over the years, I have found these five things to be of help.

Taking a warm bath

Setting my phone on ‘airplane mode’ or ‘switching it off.’ This way I cannot be reached until I am ready or in the right set of mind to engage someone.

Sleeping. I love sleeping because in a way I get to recharge and every time I wake up from such naps I am always hungry.

Listen to music.

Writing. I have been keeping a journal since I was twelve, and those stacks of books hold memories of many life experiences.

Monday in Motion: 5 things I did today

I am in awe of how fast time flies. We are 10 days to October and I went out and about today doing things I love.

  • Bought earrings
  • Bought stationery: 2 notebooks, a sharpener, orange highlighter (my absolute fave color), a 15-centimeter ruler and 5 writing pens.
  • Got two new books to read: The Girl with the Louding Voice by Abi Dare and Love in Color: Mythical Tales from Around the World by Bolu Babalola
  • Read these posts:
  • Cleaned the house.

5 Writing Gems I found Online

I came across these five insights on writing that I absolutely love and I hope you do too.

Step into a scene and let it drip from your fingertips.- MJ Bush

Write until you surprise yourself.

You can’t blame a writer for what the characters say.- Truman Capote

What would you write if you weren’t afraid?- Mary Karr

A drop of ink may make a million think. – Lord Byron

Have a great week and I hope you surprise yourself too!

September: Updates on work, life, reading and writing

One thing that I know I ought to work on is consistent blogging, however this season is my season of writing and submitting my work for review so I find myself spending more time away from posting here.

The first week of September to me has been filled with travel, work ( wrapping up projects, initiating new ones), reading and well, writing. I am looking forward to taking part in NanoWrimo so I am at the ideation stage, refining a story that I intend to carry on even after November comes to an end.

On work: From handing over projects in Nyakach to Mfangano Island, I have been encouraged just by witnessing the appreciation the schools and pupils have now that they can access proper sanitation facilities.

On reading: I started out this month by reading NoViolet Bulawayo’s We Need New Names and it’s interesting written from the point view of a 10 year old, however the themes on Africa, poverty, corruption and immigration were not new to me. I posted the full review on Goodreads.

I am currently reading 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos by Jordan B. Peterson.

Life events: My younger sister also finally got to wear her graduation gown and attend her graduation ceremony and we love photos, or maybe we act like we do in this family and I took the chance to let my hair down and pose for a picture.

afro, earrings, kitenge trouser, smile-check!

I have enrolled for 2 professional certificate courses that start this month and end in December and trying my best to juggle work, travel, and studies and the network glitches that come with learning via Google Meet!

On writing: I I have been prepping for NanoWrimo and re-writing the book that I was to release this past August.

I made it into the longlist for the 2021 Kendeka Prize for African Literature (my work’s mentioned here)

Quote of the week:

The forces of tyranny expand inexorably to fill the space made available for their existence.- 12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson.

Wrapping up July

We are in the final week of this month and I look forward to more opportunities to grow in my thinking, learning and to finally commit to working out every morning- at least for 30 days.

July’s come with surprises for me; I bought more books this month than any other month of the year thus far. I traveled to Nairobi to spend some time with my absolute favorite humans. I had fun shopping for kiondos, bookmarks and brass earrings. I also came to appreciate freedom of movement when I got to stay out past 7pm without panicking that some police officer would hound me or clobber me for staying out past curfew time.

The other surprise was my patience when traveling back to Mbita and our bus had a flat tyre that took two hours to fix and I had to get to the house at 8:42pm which is way past the curfew time here.

So, I collected some snippets of things that I got, experienced and also look forward to courtesy of this month:

Stationery: I love buying pencils by the dozens and this month, I got a number of packs which I shared with some of my friends and neighbors while keeping some to myself.

stationery.

I also enjoyed watching some awesome Korean Dramas on Netflix and let’s just say that of these three, I loved Healer and K2 the most!

I also came across a quote on the Instagram profile page of: BusinessMindset101 which had me stunned and I couldn’t help but jot it down:

“Jealousy can come in the form of jokes. Pay attention.”

Books: What would this month be without not one but two major bookhaul deliveries? Here are 4 titles I am reading next.

And when it comes to music, I would say that some of the songs that I have enjoyed listening to this month include:

I am looking forward to spending more time eating healthy, staying fit and writing more in August.

Have an awesome week ahead!

July: Updates on life, COVID-19, travel and stuff

It’s Wednesday and I am still wrapped up in a warm duvet as I type this on my phone. It’s my way of checking in with the blogging universe while doing everything I can to stay warm here in Nairobi.

I’ve been here for 3 days and I have consumed more coffee, worn more socks and sweaters than I could ever comprehend at such a time. It’s got me fully aware of how much I am sunny through and through and I know I will enjoy some heat when I travel back to Mbita soon.

Every time I come to Nairobi I love visiting places that call unto me like book shops and jewellery shops mostly to buy earrings and accessories that I wouldn’t get at a fair price either in Kisumu or Homabay. So this time around I got notebooks and pens from Miniso, body splash from a store in town and bookmarks from Hilton Arcade.

There’s something about freedom of movement that has me appreciating life pre-covid. We could breathe freely without masks, walk in and out of places without fear of contracting such a deadly virus and travel to places unhinged. Now, coming from a town where the curfew is at 7pm to a city where it’s 10pm, it’s given me more time to catch up with family while still adhering to social distancing rules and regulations and that is something I found so precious in such a long time. I truly hope that we would overcome this pandemic, build upon our health system and come August next year elect more leaders who are accountable to us and responsible in fulfilling their duties.

On writing: I have been writing and it’s good to have that going so I truly hope it’ll work out and I have to push the release date given how many rewrites I am engaging in.

All in all,it’s been a good week thus far and I hope for the very best going forward. Have an awesome week wherever you are.

6 Lessons I keep Learning as a Writer

I am a Writer.

It has taken me twelve years to say that out loud without cringing or wanting to disappear. I take on a different persona online and maybe that’s why it was easier for me to add “writer” or “author” to my profiles on social media but not easily utter the word when in conversation with someone face to face. However, the good thing about life is that lessons assail you from every direction and if you happen to procrastinate, like me, then these lessons sometimes come with a nudge from gravity and late nights.

Someone recently asked me, “what can I do to be a better Writer?” and I nearly choked, because it’s a struggle we face, the desire to be better and to be acknowledged for being good, better, the best and so on. So, thinking back on everything I have been doing over the years, I keep learning that to improve as a Writer, there are six things I keep going back to:

  1. Write. Writers write, so whatever day you are having, you have to write something- a sentence or two, just make sure that you write.
  2. Read and not just your favorite writers, read widely and vastly. Magazines, journals, memos, fiction- chap books, you soon find that words are like taste or touch, they linger longer than you expected when they resonate with you.
  3. Observe. My Mom says that writers are travelers. It is true, for you to create a character or setting, your observation skills would come in handy. So, take time and truly listen to others as they talk, observe people in the street (without being too creepy), or at a restaurant or even your favorite actors onscreen- watch how they talk, laugh and what they do- do they tap someone, laugh while covering their mouths and so on.
  4. Challenge yourself. It’s not enough to write just a sentence a day, how about trying to write a novel in a month, or a poem, or writing in some genre outside your comfort zone. It does not have to be perfect, however, it is your way to seeing how far you can go and what that feels like.
  5. Study your craft. Well, this is one thing I struggle a lot with because I may love creative writing classes, or workshops but just attending them or following through on assignments is tough for me. What I find encouraging is that I am always learning something new from every lesson, or speaker and that in itself is way better than the assignments.
  6. Finish. Look, every Writer has numerous story ideas that never make it to published book, however, if you start out a story, try your best to tie up loose ends, to finish it just because there is something satisfying about completions that mean you can look back and gauge your performance.

What’s great is that these are insights I gained from my experience and they are not the only insights, if you think that’s just talk try looking up “Advice for Writers” on Google and you’ll know what your ancestors started saying long before you even picked up a pen.

I love that I get to write and can share my writing with others and hope I’ll be vastly read. Have a great weekend ahead!